To my kids: Today I want to let you know some more of our story. While your dad and I were in college, we were on summer mission teams together for two years. Your dad was so excited to work with the children up in Canada.
Praise the Lord that we can bring our needs and the needs of others right to His throne.
I like to pray for others and see their needs answered as well as my own requests.
However, I must admit that many times my praying tends to be haphazard. I will start a prayer list, perhaps from requests given at a Wednesday night church service and those requests get prayed for that night– but usually never again.
Or I may start a list of things that I want God to do for my family. I write down specific areas of my life that I want God to work on: self-control, less anger, more trust, less fear. And then I lose that list. Continue reading “Organized Prayer: You can do it!”
When you have a child like this, it is easy to feel like a failure as a parent. This kind of kid tests all of your reserve strength.
Our first child was extremely strong willed and the rest were just normal strong-willed, which means very strong-willed.
I also talked to our Christian doctor about my daughter. I was ready to put her on medication to help me keep my own sanity.
A Problem With Self Control and Impulsiveness
He said to deal with it firmly and consistently and with salvation, you will see a change. My daughter did not get saved until she was 7 (which is a lot of years to deal with!). God is amazing! Keep praying for your child’s heart and your patience. It is worth it!
Her longest time to focus on a project that she liked was 6 minutes. So every time she did focus on something for 7 minutes, we rewarded her.
Yep, that’s right.
I lived a lot of that time in 6 and 7 minute time blocks.
She would focus on puzzles so we bought puzzles. Lots of them! And we would work and work on getting her to lengthen her focus, one minute at a time.
I am so thankful for God’s work on her heart and on my patience!
Do you need help parenting your strong willed child?
I was a strong willed child. My mom reminds me of this sometimes! That is good because if I hadn’t been stubborn or persistent or tenacious or whatever you want to call it, my own daughter would have run over me again and again.
Or perhaps I would have let my daughter get away with bad behavior if I had not been so determined. My daughter needed to learn some lessons: to obey, to persist, to follow through. Importantly, teaching obedience now provided safety and set an important foundation for future self-control.