When you have a child like this, it is easy to feel like a failure as a parent. This kind of kid tests all of your reserve strength.
Our first child was extremely strong willed and the rest were just normal strong-willed, which means very strong-willed.
I also talked to our Christian doctor about my daughter. I was ready to put her on medication to help me keep my own sanity.
A Problem With Self Control and Impulsiveness
He said to deal with it firmly and consistently and with salvation, you will see a change. My daughter did not get saved until she was 7 (which is a lot of years to deal with!). God is amazing! Keep praying for your child’s heart and your patience. It is worth it!
Her longest time to focus on a project that she liked was 6 minutes. So every time she did focus on something for 7 minutes, we rewarded her.
Yep, that’s right.
I lived a lot of that time in 6 and 7 minute time blocks.
She would focus on puzzles so we bought puzzles. Lots of them! And we would work and work on getting her to lengthen her focus, one minute at a time.
I am so thankful for God’s work on her heart and on my patience!
Do you need help parenting your strong willed child?
I was a strong willed child. My mom reminds me of this sometimes! That is good because if I hadn’t been stubborn or persistent or tenacious or whatever you want to call it, my own daughter would have run over me again and again.
Or perhaps I would have let my daughter get away with bad behavior if I had not been so determined. My daughter needed to learn some lessons: to obey, to persist, to follow through. Importantly, teaching obedience now provided safety and set an important foundation for future self-control.
Welcome to homeschooling! I have homeschooled my four and been working with homeschoolers for over 30 years. Here are the Basics to help you get started and have a happy homeschooling experience.
Homeschooling: You Need Some Books
If you are choosing to home school or teaching from home due to the quarantine make sure you are getting the material you need. Generally with home schooling, you purchase and teach the subjects your child needs. However you may be getting some material from your school district during this time. Whatever you are teaching, please join me on Homeschool with Confidence on Facebook for additional support. If you are having difficulty with finding curriculum or other resources, I can help you in that forum.
There are very good boxed all-in-one curriculums out there. I used and recommend BJU Press Homeschool curriculum for all my kids K thru 12. You can do parent led where you teach or purchase the DVD’s or get the same material through the computer. For any of those ways, there are recommendations for grading or they do it for you. I love the BJU curriculum because they have thought of everything. Subjects are well put together, they list tons of extra resources if you need it and all the prep work is done. On day one, you teach lesson one, etc. So the value of that kind of complete curriculum was worth every penny to me. Continue reading “Homeschooling Basics: Getting Started”
After our pattern unit, we dove right in to a shaped board book art project. Inside our board book, we will add animal silhouettes.
We used a shaped book of a zebra as a pattern for 3 board book pages. Cut this pattern out of bristol board or some other sturdy paper.
Next we glued colored heavy construction paper on each side of the 3 pages (picture on far right).
Because the front page (the zebra’s head) is smaller than the other 2 pages, make sure you add in the feet and stripes (center picture).
We used a belt punch or heavy hole punch to punch holes at the top. Wiggling the small key rings carefully, we pushed them through the holes so that the book opens easily.
Using markers, add the silhouettes of various animals onto your board book pages. Remember, the more unique shape an animal has, the easier it is to recognize by shape! You can free-hand these drawing or use stencils to help you.
Tip: You can find out more about this art project, and other art projects by joining my FaceBook group HomeschoolChristianMom and by subscribing to my Youtube channel HomeschoolChristianMom Elizabeth Estelle.
Using markers, color in your animal shapes. You can have pictures on the back of the zebra’s head (page 1), the front and back of page 2, and the front and back of page 3.
Can I use this project for younger children? I recommend age 8 and up for this project. For this age group, you will need someone to help them cut out their pages. Also,I give them the option of using a stencil to draw their animal, drawing it themselves, or I will draw the outline for them and they can just color it in.
If the student has the scissor skills to cut out their own pages-hooray! I let them.
What if a student draws their animals so they appear upside down in the book? You can leave them that way or replace that page by gluing another piece of construction paper over it.
What if a student draws shapes that are unrecognizable? If the student is happy with his book, I say leave the drawings alone. If a student is unhappy, perhaps they can re-do that page or you can help by adding in a line or two where it is needed.
Do the animal shapes they color in have to be colored only in black? No, they do not! I have seen great animal shapes in all colors and one koala that was pink with black ears. While we usually think of silhouettes as being black, this book can be a fun shape book without each animal shape being black.
Can you add words to this book?Sure you can! Some of my students like to name the animals that they have drawn. Example: Elephant.
Some students like to add text. Example: “The pink pig says Oink.”
How long should this project take? I plan for two, 1 hr. art classes, but this last class it took 3 hours. The students made their books a little extra detailed and so we took the additional time. I find it best not to rush the students if you can help it.
Tip: Keep each student’s pages together with a clothes pin until the book is tied or ringed together.
Let me know how the project goes at email@example.com.
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At our house, we have been able to get outside to rake leaves out of the flower beds and pick up twigs. The sun felt so good and I enjoyed being outside again.
My husband has been teaching through Nehemiah- what an example of leadership. He did his best where he was (the king’s cupbearer), as a motivator of the builders and as a warrior (working AND holding a sword). Let’s remember to be training our children to be leaders as well. Give your children age-appropriate opportunities to tackle a job, help a neighbor, cook dinner or help you teach a class.
The following hymn sounds like the song of the homeschooling mom, doesn’t it?
Hymn: To the Work! by Frannie Crosby
To the work! To the work! We are servants of God;
Let us follow the path that our Master has trod;
With the balm of His counsel our strength to renew,
Let us do with our might what our hands find to do.
Toiling on, toiling on,
Toiling on, toiling on;
Let us hope, let us watch,
And labor till the Master comes.
To the work! To the work! Let the hungry be fed;
To the fountain of life let the weary be led;
In the cross and its banner our glory shall be,
While we herald the tidings, “Salvation is free!”
To the work! To the work! There is labor for all;
For the kingdom of darkness and error shall fall;
And the love of our Father exalted shall be,
In the loud swelling chorus, “Salvation is free!”
To the work! To the work! In the strength of the Lord,
And a robe and a crown shall our labor reward,
When the home of the faithful our dwelling shall be,
And we shout with the ransomed, “Salvation is free!”
Do you need some activities for those wiggly children of yours? Don’t be afraid to include some exercises into your routine!
Windmill Toe Touches
Arm Circles (clockwise, counter-clockwise, small and large)
Chicken Thighs on Sun-Dried Tomatoes, Spinach with Pepper Jack Cheese
4chicken thighsbone removed and flattened
1/2cupsun dried tomatoes + 2 tbsp oil from the jar
1/2cupshredded pepper jack cheese
10 ozfrozen spinach
1 tbspyellow mustard
1 tbsprice wine vinegar
1/2tspItalian mixed herbs
Whisk together the marinade ingredients in a bowl.
Using a barbecue brush, coat the chicken on both sides with the marinade. (Let this set for 10 minutes.)
Meanwhile, microwave spinach for 6 minutes, drain and squeeze dry.
Heat a non-stick frying pan to medium heat, adding 2 tbsp olive oil.
When frying pan is medium-hot, add chicken thighs. Chicken should sizzle but not spit all over. When chicken is brown on one side (about 8 minutes), turn over. Check again at 6 and 8 minutes till done.
Microwave spinach, chopped sun-dried tomatoes with a little drizzle of their oil, and pepper jack cheese for 2 minutes. Stir with fork. Cook and additional 2 minutes till hot and cheese is melted.
Check chicken thighs with a meat thermometer. When the thickest part of the meat is 165°, it is done.
Serve thighs on a bed of the delicious spinach/tomato/cheese mixture.
While this recipe is sometimes made with chicken breasts, we find the thighs much more flavorful. And by making it in a frying pan instead of the oven, it's a quick and easy dinner. Enjoy!