When you have a child like this, it is easy to feel like a failure as a parent. This kind of kid tests all of your reserve strength.
Our first child was extremely strong willed and the rest were just normal strong-willed, which means very strong-willed.
I also talked to our Christian doctor about my daughter. I was ready to put her on medication to help me keep my own sanity. He said to deal with it firmly and consistently and with salvation, you will see a change. My daughter did not get saved until she was 7 (which is a lot of years to deal with!). God is amazing! Keep praying for your child’s heart and your patience. It is worth it!
I am so thankful for God’s work on her heart and on my patience!
Do you need help parenting your strong willed child?
I was a strong willed child. My mom reminds me of this sometimes! That is good because if I hadn’t been stubborn or persistent or tenacious or whatever you want to call it, my own daughter would have run over me again and again.
Or perhaps I would have let my daughter get away with bad behavior if I had not been so determined. My daughter needed to learn some lessons: to obey, to persist, to follow through. Importantly, teaching obedience now provided safety and set an important foundation for future self-control.
Home school: 4 times rule! and other sanity saving tips
Does noise bother you after a long day of home schooling? Or just after a long day in general? Singing, humming, banging on the pots and pans- sometimes for me it just gets to be too much. Children do learn by repetition but sometimes my nervous system just couldn’t take the noise!
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A child is allowed to sing the same song four times in a row, but if they begin the fifth time the 4 times rule is put into action. They have to choose a different song! This goes with (almost) any repetitive noise. Note: I did have to make some allowances for piano practice. Haha!
These Rule Twins Stay Together:
Don’t be purposefully annoying. Don’t be easily annoyed.
My son just posted the following to my Facebook page:
Growing up we had two rules about being annoying:
“Don’t be purposefully annoying,” and “Don’t be easily annoyed.”