Raising Children: 5 Helps for Parents

Parenthood is so important for raising up a group of Christian children, your children,  who are able to be leaders for the next generation.

We discussed leadership in church today when we were studying about the life of Joseph. Joseph had decided to make God’s concerns more important that his own concerns. His determination to do right even under very tempting and trying circumstances allowed him to be used of God in amazing ways later in his life.

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So how do we raise up our children to be the next generation of leaders?

Parenthood: Be a Godly Example

That’s right! You are going to have to set the example for your children. I heard one mom say that if her children came out well, it was not going to be because of her good example but despite her example in front of them. Now we all know that we fail, but our goal should be setting the example for our children. We should be reading our Bibles regularly and allowing the Lord to work in our hearts and lives so that we are becoming more Christ-like. We want to glorify God in our lives!

God said of Abraham in Genesis 18:19: For I have chosen him, that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice, so that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has promised him.”

 

Parenthood: Teach Them at Home

Deuteronomy 6:5-9  (ESV)

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

You and your husband are responsible for teaching your children as much as you can about the Bible. Note: I am not saying that this verse means that every Christian family is mandated to homeschool their children. However, God gave these children to YOU and has uniquely gifted you to raise them. Inside of your home, you should be teaching your children godly principles, whether your children are home educated, attend public or private school.

Family Devotions

At our house, my husband would call us all into the living room at about 8:30 each evening. He would read a short portion of Scripture, we would talk about it, and then pray together as a family. This wasn’t a lengthy time period- maybe 20 minutes. Many times we would ask our children, “What did you see today that you think God had fun making? Sometimes we would ask them, “What are you thankful for today? We did this 5 nights a week, skipping Sunday and Wednesday nights as we had already had church services those days.

There are so many wonderful devotional books and even Bible curriculums that are available today. For our homeschool we used the BJU Press Bible curriculum which is AMAZING. I appreciate the incremental way doctrinal truths are presented year by year. My children learned a lot and I did, too!

Personal Study

Sometimes instead of reading the Bible, we would read a devotional book together. As the children got older, we encouraged them to have their own personal devotional time as well. This would be a time where they read a portion of Scripture, asked themselves, “How does this apply to me?” and wrote down how they felt God would want them to change or put that principle into practice in their own lives.

When I was in 8th grade, our church had a “Read Through the Bible in a Year” Challenge. I participated and have read through my Bible many times since then! I strongly suggest that sometime between 8th and 12th grade you ought to have each of your children read through the entire Bible.

Read It Through

If you are a Christian family, and you say that you believe the Bible, you should read it through at least once! Of course you won’t understand it all without further study, but you will certainly appreciate in a richer way God’s merciful work with His people through history. Take the challenge and read your Bible cover to cover with a one year or two year Bible reading plan. 

Parenthood: Attend Church Together

Church is a great place to have your children taught the Bible. Many churches have excellent and passionate teachers that work very diligently to teach your children on their age level the truths of the Bible. The curriculums they use are age appropriate and develop sequentially over time to lay a good foundation for Biblical and foundational principles.

Corporate, or group,  worship is taught in the Bible. Church is a great place for your children to: sing with others praise to God, hear godly men preach, pray as a church for God’s intervention on behalf of others, fellowship, meet and get to know others who also are trying to serve God.

Teaching At Home is needed

Note: While some churches meet for lengthy services, most churches have a Bible study or Sunday school hour and a morning worship service. Some churches also have a mid-week prayer or Bible study time. Even if you attend all of these services, your children will not get enough Bible teaching! Good parenting involves you  teaching them at home as well.

Parenthood: Have Them Work Alongside Godly Leaders

Our children attended church work days with us. While their little shovel could not clean out the ditches as fast as ours could, it was important to have them work with other godly people from our church.

Sometimes our children participated in ministry with others. This included singing in children’s choir, participating in Christmas or Easter pageants, singing and visiting the elderly at a nursing home.

Have Them Serve Others

Parenthood involves teaching our children to reach out and serve others. Our church helps us teach this to our children. Our children helped in Vacation Bible School, made cookies for area families at Christmas time and made food for shut-ins. I have heard of other churches that made cookies/goodies. They bake them for the local police station or fire house. They also visited at children’s hospitals and sang Christmas Carols.

Christian ministry is serving others. Mark 10: 45 Jesus said, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (emphasis mine) Christ’s example of service is one we should emulate. To teach this to our children, we should give them opportunities to minister to others as they are able.

We don’t go to church to be entertained but edified. If we just sit there week after week and never giving out we are not following the Scriptural admonitions to teach and serve others. What ways can you think to get your child involved in ministering to others?

  • Baking cookies🍪for a neighbor
  • Singing at a nursing home church service
  • Making a meal for someone who has recently had a baby, been ill, or had surgery or just to be kind to them🍕🍲
  • Putting together a Sunshine basket: encouraging items like a word find book, tissues, can of chicken soup, saltine crackers, stickers
  • Making a get well card
  • Raking leaves for an elderly person
  • Helping with gardening for an elderly person in your church or community
  • Joining a community group to serve
  •  Helping do someone else’s chores
  • Writing an email of encouragement to one of your missionaries
  • Being a Sunday school helper
  • Helping with outreach ministries like Vacation Bible School or Neighborhood Bible Clubs
  • Spending time with a shut-in
  • Working alongside someone from your church while they fix a car or work in their woodshop
  • Babysitting for a young couple so they can have a date night

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