God Will Help: You Don’t Have to STAY TOXIC

This post is brought to you courtesy of Tamika Hurdle Smith of Chosen Troopers. I hope that her words will speak to your heart!

Toxic: You don’t have to be that person.

With so much grace and mercy that the Father has shown me, I am in no place to withhold grace and mercy from another. As a person who dwelled there for years, I will say to grown toxic folks who have to manipulate and blame others, never taking any responsibility for where you are and what you have going on, “God wants to heal you!”

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There is so much freedom in giving up the grudges and experiences that plague us!

Toxic: Stop throwing gas on the fire!

Stop spewing your hurt on others because you don’t get your way or feel like you are not the center of attention! Stop “gaslighting” to take attention off of things you caused in the first place or ways you are causing division and/or destruction.
After so much, people will see your decisions to remain where you are in your ways and let it be.

…and to those who try to hold on and endure, if that is what you choose or what the Lord has called you to, realize that is for you. Go to God and ask His Holy Spirit to guide you, comfort you, and keep you so you are not in turn spewing your frustrations on those around you, leaving you to the same fate as that toxic person you allowed to lead you to that point.

From Elizabeth

If you have been toxic, confess and repent. Go tell tell the people that you have hurt that you are sorry. Yes, that is an important step.  You can read more about the importance of forgiveness here. When you are really sorry, you will do whatever it takes to restore a relationship. Do it! Don’t wait another minute. You don’t want people referring to you as the toxic person for ONE more second.

I heard recently that there are forgiveness exercises that are promoted on the internet. Forgiveness exercises?? God has already provided the principles in the Bible, in the book of Matthew.  When people wrong you and ask forgiveness, you forgive them!

Beautiful sunrise picture with the definition of forgiveness printed over it.
Forgiveness is a conscious deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. Neil Farber

There is also a lot of talk lately about boundaries. It is certainly easier to set up boundaries for your life.  You can say, I won’t do this or that because it is uncomfortable for me. Or it is not one of my strengths to do that. Or I am not feeling inspired to do this or that. You may not feel aligned.

Ministering for the Lord and following what God wants you to do is hard. It is uncomfortable at times. It will stretch your abilities! God will lend His strength for the task at hand. We don’t need to feel inspired to do what needs to be done. We need to be obedient to God and just do what God has put in front of us!

For some of you, that is home schooling. For others, it is care giving for a parent or a special needs child.

God will enable you to do what needs to be done.

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